Jasna Burza
Rise To More
Why men pull away
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Why men pull away

You’re independent, capable, and thriving—so why is love so elusive?

Today on the podcast, we talk about the amazing single women and why it’s becoming harder and harder to find a true partnership. There’s a conversation I keep having with brilliant, independent, wildly accomplished women. They’ve checked off all the boxes—careers they’re proud of, finances handled, lives beautifully curated. But there’s one area they feel stuck in, frustrated by, even a little heartbroken about:

Finding a true partner.

They tell me about men who seem intimidated, emotionally distant, or flat-out uninterested. They ask, genuinely confused, "What am I missing?"

Here’s the tricky, sometimes uncomfortable truth—and you might not like it, but you deserve honesty:

Without realizing it, many strong, independent women lead with an energy that says, loud and clear, "I don't need you."

Let me be very clear: I’m here for powerful women. I celebrate independence, financial security, ambition. These things are beautiful and essential. But I’ve also seen this pattern play out over and over again—women unknowingly pushing away the exact love they crave.

And it's not because you’re too powerful.
It's not because men can't handle your strength.

It's because all humans crave connection and contribution—and when we lead with walls rather than warmth, when we inadvertently tell someone "there's no room for you here," we push away the very thing our heart longs for.

Dating isn't transactional. It's relational. Men, like us, want to feel useful, valued, and seen. And while it's true that none of us "need" a partner in the old-fashioned sense, it's equally true that wanting connection, wanting intimacy, wanting support, is beautifully human. It doesn't diminish your independence—it enhances your life.

The strongest, happiest, most fulfilled women I've seen in relationships understand something powerful: True independence isn’t doing everything alone. It's being secure enough in your power to make space for someone else to step in and add value.

And that doesn't compromise you—it elevates you.

P.S. If you’re serious about finding love and ready for professional support, my company Selective Connections pairs incredible singles with a thoughtful, personalized matchmaking experience. Consider joining our database or working with our expert team—because sometimes, a little support can go a long way.

Much love,
Jasna

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