The Most Selfish Thing You Can Do (Is to Give)

—because helping others win helps you come home to yourself.

This morning, I was listening to Joel Osteen. I do that sometimes when I need to be reminded of the goodness that still exists in the world. His voice, his smile, his energy—it does something to my nervous system. It calms me. It brings me back into coherence. It reminds me who I am.

And more importantly, who we all are.

He was talking about helping others win. Not just in the obvious, big ways, but in the quiet ones—the support, the encouragement, the presence we offer. The kind word. The belief in someone who’s lost it for themselves. The reminder that they’re not alone.

It hit me. Again.

We are not here just to chase goals, or titles, or bank accounts. We’re here to help each other win. I really believe that.

And the wildest part? When you do that—when you help someone else win—doors start opening for you, too.

Not because it’s a transaction. Not because you’re keeping score. But because that kind of energy multiplies. It clears the emotional static. It brings your heart back online. It makes life make sense. I know it does that for me.

I’ve said this before: giving of yourself might be the most selfish act in the best way—because it feels so good. It fills you. And let’s be honest, most of us have already been given so much. Even in the struggle, even in the mess, we are walking around with breath in our lungs, minds that think, hearts that still want to love.

That’s more than enough to give from.

What I love about Joel—beyond the words—is his intention. I can feel it. And that’s the power of just one person saying something kind. Just one voice, one moment of warmth, can shift a nervous system, rewire a story, change a day.

Don’t ever forget:
You have that power. Today. Right now.

You don’t need a platform. You don’t need perfect words. You just need a real moment of presence. A smile. A text. A hand on someone’s shoulder. A sentence like, “I see you. Keep going.”

So if you’re feeling off, stuck, or spiraling—get out of your head and into someone else’s life. Serve. Give. Speak love. Not to fix anyone, but to be the reminder.

Helping someone else rise might just bring you home to yourself again.

That’s what this space—for me—is really about.
It’s not about pushing harder or faking joy.
It’s about remembering who you are, and how powerful it is to show up, even in your imperfection, and still be someone who lifts.

So, today—go lift.

With love,
Jasna

P.S. If this resonated, I’d love for you to share it. Someone out there might need exactly this today.